I hear you had a rough night last night with your baby--I've been there. You may be wondering when it gets better. You may be worrying that it won't. You may worry, and perhaps rightly so, that you are going to be sleep deprived, overwhelmed, and drowning in someone else's body fluids for the rest of your life.
|Even body fluids from super cute babies like |
this can be wearing.
You may make the mistake of telling a mom of teenagers your misguided hopes that things will get easier one day--and they will then shoot you down by telling you that you're doing the easy part now, that it only gets harder as you go along. They are dealing with teenagers. To them, toddlers are mere child's play.
|Personally, I think these non-teenagers are pretty terrifying.|
May I take a few minutes just to tell you a couple truthful encouragements? That mom of teenagers may be right (but she should've just nodded sympathetically and given you a cup of coffee). It doesn't necessarily get easier. Parenting, just like most relationships, will present you with one challenge after another. This is called dealing with people.
But the challenges are different challenges. You are not forever in a season of sleepless nights (says the woman whose twins didn't sleep through the night until they were a year and a half old). Potty training does, indeed, come to an end (says the woman whose twins took close to a full year to stop peeing gleefully all over the house). And the days of leaking breastmilk and having a very cute parasite constantly latched to your chest will one day draw to an end (says the woman with five kids who thought she was done after two).
|There are children hanging off all your appendages:|
ARE YOU HAVING FUN YET?!
|Also, when you are tired,|
you might decide to sit in the backyard
and let your next door neighbor parent your kids.
This is legit.
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Twinkle being a ridiculously happy baby.
Also, she's rocking those eyebrows.
Side note: you don't have to have five children to get to this point.
|These were the test run children. Now I know what's up.|
Every day that you make the choice to get out of bed and Mom like a Boss, your body and brain (and heart!) are filing away information, telling themselves "Oh, so this is what it means to be a mom." And later, when you need it, the muscle memory will kick in, and you will be able to handle without blinking things that would've pushed you over the edge in the early days. You will grow because you are adaptable and strong and resilient. And because God gives us incredible amounts of grace in these days.
|Sometimes the biggest measure of|
God's grace is a happy 5th child.
|Naturally, you hope they will go the way|
of the books. They will.
So, new mom, it may not get easier, but you will get stronger. And while this is hard, you can do it. Hang in there.
Another Mom in the Trenches